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grateful for friends and family.

happy thanksgiving.

bad news bears.

well, my mom was laid off today. unofficially. she took yesterday and today off because she knew she was going to get fired, and so she wasn’t notified like everyone else who was fired. she’s expecting her severance package sometime next week.

we’ve known that there was a good chance she would be fired for a while, at least a month. they’ve fired her already earlier this year, but because she’s so kick-ass at her job, they rehired her. however, this time her whole team is getting the boot, and she’s just too expensive now after working there for so many years. thus, we were not as surprised this time around, although we were still hoping for the best.

it wasn’t until this week that i thought about the repercussions on myself. of course, this is a severe loss of income for my family, so we’ll have to cut back on everything. no more annual family vacations to fabulously exotic locales. next month’s trip to peru will probably be our last international trip. my parents, already the fairly frugal, will have to sell this house within the next year and move to a cheaper area.

but for the next year, i will be at home, studying from the local cc and working part-time. my mom will be at home all the time now as well. this will not be an optimal living situation.

in addition, i think i may be close to unpacking all my things from davis. for the past four and a half months i’ve been living out of boxes and suitcases. and i thought that after moving back to my childhood room, i could slowly unpack and, at the same time, go through my old things. piles for trashing, keeping, and putting into storage. after four and a half months i am so close to finishing, almost at the point of finishing touches like putting up posters and picture frames. but if i’m moving in the next year, what’s the point? within the next year, everything i’ve gone through with careful consideration will be back in boxes. i may as well just put off the reorg until moving time and continue to live out of suitcases. all i really need are clothes and my laptop anyway.

selfish, i know. i am hoping that, by this time next year, i will be in my own apartment, preferably in the city. mark it in your calendars, folks.

recently i’ve grown to hate talking to my parents. i know that they just care about me, and are worried about my future; but i hate how they tell me to think about the many options, and when i come back with an answer they steer the conversation according to their own agenda.

e.g.: they have been pushing me towards applying to graduate school this fall, while i would rather continue to search for a job (although the job search has been unsuccessful). my dad goes through the list of different graduate schools (ie liberal arts, psych, business, etc) and i pick out the ones i’m most interested in. business school is at the bottom of my list, because i feel that the applicants of business schools either know what they want to do or accomplish in life, or have very driven personalities. i am neither. my dad thoughtfully pushes me to include it on the list anyway.

when i tell him that at this point in the thinking process, i would want to get a masters in history and eventually teach, his reaction is “oh…sigh.” he starts asking me questions about the demand for teachers and rises/falls in student populations.

later i start asking him directly what he would do in my situation, which school/major he would pick. he tells me not to think too much, just study for and take the gre and gmat. don’t worry about it, he says. take the tests first and then decide what you want to pursue afterwards.

my dad loves sound of music. apparently he watched it eleven times when it came out.

i think that’s adorable.

daily walks with my mom, and it’s been awesome.

topic of discussion today: the guys who’ve liked my mom, and the ones she went on dates with.

1. creepster followed her home from the train station a couple times. finally stopped when confronted by my grandpa (although he did try to show his merits with his alma mater and military service).

2. schoolmate on a college excursion wrote her a letter on blue paper which apparently means he’s interested. she did not return the favor :[

3. guy in photography club who taught her how to develop film, the first thing everyone learned. of course he liked her, following the example of every romantic movie.

4. she went out with coworker in a college lab because he was a college radio station dj. after a couple dates he wanted to take her to meet his parents. it was only that she realized that they were dating and not just hanging out. unfortuantely she stopped the dating and he was crushed.

5. one of the grad school chinese association welcome team who picked my mom from the airport, in addition to the assoc. president and his wife. while she was dating this guy, she started going out with my dad, who eventually graduated and moved to california (they were in oregon). one of the times my dad came up to visit was the same day as a date with the gradschool guy, so my mom cancelled to hang out with my dad. gradschool guy did not call after that.

conclusion: my mom was a heartbreaker.

hahaha the best part was when she was showing how she was evading train station creepster. now i know where i get my animated talking style from.

p.s. my dad had long wavy hair like a hippie and when my uncle saw it, he went to a salon to get his long hair permed.

cuteness that is my baby cousin

1. apparently, it’s easier to make my baby cousin eat if she’s watching her tv shows (think chinese sesame street). so they pop in the dvd, and she’s instantly transfixed. haha even as they’re pulling out the dvd player, her eyes are already following it. she watches her show, and her mom feeds her. and if the dvd starts to skip, she’ll tell the girl that someone’s hiding because she’s not eating or chewing. she can have the same food in her mouth for 30 minutes without chewing, just watching.

2. my cousin singing along to the episode and her dancing along to his singing. (he also drew spongebob during lunch and sang her the theme song). when she talks it’s usally quiet, xiexie. and when asked to repeat, it becomes a yell, XIEXIE.

3. as soon as the eating segment comes on, she wants to eat herself. she takes the spoon, and eats a heeaaping spoonful of food. eats until the segment is over. so my cousins go back to the beginning of the segment and tell her that jiejie (the girl in the video) is waiting for her to finish chewing. chewchewchew.

4. as the show finishes, there’s a goodbye dance (just like barney haha) and she starts dancing along to it, waving her arms, bopping up and down. at the very end the characters on the show wave baibai, and she waves baibai.

5. haha the next video is all about christmas and xmas jingles. of course the beginning of it is about waiting for santa to come on xmas eve, so she keeps asking, santa zai nali? when he shows up, santa lai le!

6. when she’s full, she’s also done watching. kan wan le, and climbs down from her chair.

7. my mom and i take her to my room to pick out some stuffed animals to play with. who is this? who? pooh!

8. jumping up and down on the bed because pooh is too

9. we have a pretty big recliner massaging chair, which comes with a foot rest. it’s almost as tall as she is. she starts climbing on to the chair and slides down the foot rest like it’s a slide. haha she asks my cousin if he wants to slide too, but he declines (he says because his butt is too big).

10. my mom and i connect arms so that she can sit on it. we bounce her up and down and she starts giggling.

11. she didn’t want to talk to her dad, until her mom threatened to withhold candy. instantly it’s hi babi, we xiang ni, i love youu (will you forget me?) bu hui!

12. mami gan she me, she kept asking. my cousin’s sick, so finally she said that she had a runny nose. oh, and she went to sleep. she doesn’t like it when other people cry. last night at dinner, my mom pretended to cry, and she gave my mom a toy. then my grandma pretended to cry, and she was just like, oh shit, what do i do now?

13. she was posing with her uncle’s hat. there was a cute pose, and a cool pose.

14. baobao clap. that’s how everyone knows that she wants to be picked up.and when my mom wants to hold her, mami baobao haole.

15. my mom is having a field day with the baby girl! she keeps talkin about my cousins going home, and leaving yaya behind. i’m sure she’s only half joking…

16. biaoyi, chichi, bu ke qi. she’s only being nice to me because i wasn’t immediately blinded by her cuteness XD

17. ganbei, paipai, i love you; yao zhao pooh. pooh chu lai le! and she waves pooh in the air to show everyone.

cute can’t begin to describe my first cousin, once removed. she keeps saying pao pao (bubbles in chinese), and asks people to draw them. so freaking adorable.

my parents are so in love with this kid. haha even though my mom has picked up on what happens when my cousin (the mom) leaves the room, she always gets soo excited when she’s playing with little kids like my niece. even my dad adores her :D

it’s odd seeing my cousin go into uncle mode, crazy to think of us as jojo and biaoyi. it feels like yesterday when we were hanging out, he was in high school, i was in middle school. i can’t believe he’s almost 27! haha the flaws of being asian, you look exactly the same as before you can order a drink. nor is he the cool uncle, who teaches you how to trick your parents. he’s definitely cracking down like his sister (who’s also tough love). so cute to see him with his niece. little things and you can tell that he’d be a great dad.